Monday, September 2, 2013

Updates & Social Discussion Group

Hey everyone!
It has been a few weeks and so much has happened.  We have a new Mr. Long Beach Leather, Marc Bellenger, and Mr. San Diego Leather, Eli Correa.  Congratulations on your new titles!
This weekend we have our Monthly Social & Discussion Group.  It will be this Saturday the 7th from 6pm to 8pm at the Antebellum Gallery, 1643 North Las Palmas, Hollywood, CA 90028.
Next weekend, Saturday September 14th from 9pm to 2am, will be the annual Bondage County Fair at Pistons Bar in Long Beach.  it is sure to be a fantastic night!  We will have a Body Shot Booth, Butt Pie Eating Contest, Man2Man Leather Booth and many other amazing treats!
Thank you all and see you soon!

Monday, August 12, 2013

August Get-Together Recap

Hey everyone!
Thank you to everyone that came to our get-together on Saturday, and a special Thank-You to the Avatars.  We had quite the lively discussion.  There were some differences of opinion and some passionate exchanges.  I believe a lot of good came out of it all.  FMLA stands for diversity and as a place for everyone to be able to be a part of something and have their thoughts heard.  So, naturally there will be those whose opinions differ...but that it what makes us great.  It opens the possibility for growth and understanding.
I think we all learned a lot about the community, but more importantly about what we stand for.  FMLA is there for everyone in the fetish community, interested in the fetish community or just curious.  We are a group where anyone can come out and discover where they want to be...whether it is just a voyeur, an occasional participant or live a full-fledged fetish lifestyle.  Each person has their place and this is where you can discover what is best for you.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Long Beach Pride Reflections

So, we have all recovered from Long Beach Pride and as many of us prepare for IML, I though it would be a good time to reflect.

Long Beach Pride was my first time marching in a Pride parade and it was amazing.  Besides the near 40,000 spectators, I was able to share this experience with so many of my FMLA brothers, Gus Norris, Bill Robertroy, Carl Dove, John Freeman, Eric Crow and so many others.  Furthermore the attendance at the Leather tent was spectacular.  I wandered in, for the second time, around 1:30pm on Sunday to say hi and see what was going on...and the demo area was packed.  It was thrilling to see...then to hear they had already had over 500 attendees, I couldn't have been happier.

Yes, I am sure some were lookey-loos and other might have been turned off by things, but I am sure there were some people out there discovering new things about themselves.  The lights I could see behind people's eyes were mesmerizing.  And so this inspires me.

We must reach out to these people at LA Pride on June 7, 8 & 9.  There will be more newbies there waiting for someone to say hi and break the ice.  They will have attended and watched...the rest is up to us.  So, let's bind together and welcome this new crop of Fetish Men.

Monday, May 13, 2013

The Upcoming Events and FMLA Discussion Group

Hey everyone!
This has been such a busy week...many things have moved forward!

We have finally decided on dates for our regular FMLA Discussion Group.  Our regular hang-outs will be the first Saturday of every month, from 6pm to 8pm.  Now, because the FM Reunion is on June 1st (the first Saturday on June), we will be rescheduling our next gathering for Friday June 14th, 2013 from 6pm to 8pm. 

One of the reasons we chose a weekend was because of what happened after our FMLA Kick-Off event.  When 8pm came around people were getting into groups...people that hadn't met before that night were going out together.  It was friendships, new bonds were immediately translated to going out socially.  It took the concept of a Discussion Group and gave it the possibility of turning into an event for the entire night.  I wanted to give us all that option every chance we got together.  And so, Saturday early evening was chosen.

Now, I would like to give you a run down of the events coming up this week.  We have a Fundraising
Event by Mr. Eagle LA Leather 2013, Bill Robertroy, benefiting GLEH, Gay & Lesbian Elderly Housing.  This is a great organization and I would love to see you all there supporting him and GLEH. 

This weekend is also Long Beach Pride.  Come on down to Long Beach and support our Southern LA brothers! 

As I had previously discussed, FMSD is throwing a Family Reunion for all the Fetishmen Groups in California.  We are all getting together on June 1st at 9pm in San Diego, at the Birch North Park Theater.  They will be showing "Interior. Leather Bar." at the movie theater for $10 a ticket.  There will be socializing and a should be a very fun evening.  now, I know for LA it is very far to drive and can be a hassle, but if we carpool it will make life so much easier.  Also, Papa Tony has offered his services in finding a place to stay if anyone wants to spend the night instead of driving back to LA at  He can be reached directly regarding this at

For more information regarding this event go to

Please remember that I need your input and help maintaining out Master Fetish Calendar.  If you don't see something that should be there or if info is incorrect, please let me know.  I want to make sure this is the most extensive and accurate Event Calendar in Los Angeles.

Thank you to everyone for all your help and support and I will see all of my FMLA brothers very soon!

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Upcoming Dates to Remember

Hey Guys!

OK, I want to let you guys know about some important things on the horizon.

First off, we have Jay R. Lawton's memorial at Eagle LA.  This is Saturday May 11th, 2013 from 12pm to 3pm.  Jay was not only an extremely talented artist, but an amazing person.  I was very fortunate as to have my photo taken by him...and I must say he was a genius.  He was a staple of the Leather community and will be greatly missed.  Please come out and support our brothers.  This will be a celebration of his life, so no sad faces.  Let's love and hug and support each other in his honor.  This is exactly what he wanted.

Next, we have our next FMLA Discussion Social.  This has not found an exact time or place yet, but know it will be a regular monthly event.  Probably during the first week of every month.  Stay tuned for more info!

Lastly, we have a Festishmen Family Reunion.  FMSD is throwing a weekend get together in San Diego Saturday June 1st through Sunday June 2nd.  It would be an annual gathering of all the Fetishmen groups, FMSD, DFA and FMLA.  I will forward details as they emerge, but it sounds like fun to me!  We can carpool down there in groups and I hear they are arranging it so we can all stay somewhere cost-free, if we want.  I will keep you posted!

Of course, all of these events will be in our Master Calendar, which is accessible from here or on our website,

Thank you to everyone and talk with you soon!

Sunday, April 28, 2013

The Day After

I woke up this morning, still in a haze.  The Kick-Off event last night for FMLA was incredible.  Beyond what I could have expected.  The energy, the feelings, the brotherhood, the support...everything I could have wanted.

As I stood in the Antebellum Gallery, amidst the Art of Drummer Exhibit, I must admit, I was nervous.  I care so much about the concepts of FMLA and giving LA that heart and sense of brotherhood for all that it needs so badly.  People began to arrive and I introduced myself.  There was some trepidation and curiousity amongst some of the attendees, but that was expected.  As the event moved on I noticed something.  Everyone was talking to everyone.  Whenever someone started to slink away from the group and get insecure, people would swoop in and make that person feel supported and welcome.  This is what I believed, we in LA, were capable of.  Taking care of each other and supporting one another.  We just needed an excuse and a space.  That trepidation melted away and people were just "being" with each other.  The diversity of the group was just as I had hoped.  All experience levels, sizes, fetishes, people in gear, some without any at united by a common mind-set and a yearning for more.

I am now more inspired then I was before.  Seeing my fetish brothers thrive and welcome others into the fold, filled my heart.  It may sound cheesy, but it's true. It works, in LA of all places.  Now, we can reach out to those who are nervous or skeptical of being accepted or having their knowledge and experience valued, and say, we are here.  We support you and are here for you.,  If you want to be a part of us, you simply have to show up and you will be welcome.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

FetishMenLosAngeles (FMLA) Kick-Off Event, Saturday April 27th


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5PM TILL 8PM, at
$5 REQUESTED DONATION (nobody will be turned away for lack of funds)
All funds go to the gallery to thank them for the use of the wonderful space.

Guest speaker: RICK CASTRO
gallery owner & photographer for DRUMMER Magazine,
1990 thru 1999


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Sunday, April 7, 2013

Mission Statement

Hello!  My name is Jeremy and I live in Los Angeles.  I recently won a Leather Title, Mr. Oil Can Harry's Leather 2013, and then competed for Mr. Los Angeles Leather.  During this time I was flooded with invites to events and met tons of people.  It was really overwhelming.  I had been trying to break in to the Leather Community for 10 years.  I was untrained and didn't have a lot of experience in the beginning.  It was very hard to make friends or really feel welcomed.  Now, I did eventually feel that way, but I had to win a Leather Title first. 
I thought to myself through this process how many people we, as a community, have lost because there was no "welcome committee".  I, who love this world and the lifestyle, left at one point because I felt there was no place for one to show me the one to mentor me.
I was wrong, there was just no way of finding them among the crowd.  This is my goal.  Create a place where sweet guys just want to help each other, have some fun, learn new things,  hone skills and support each other.  This is what FetishMenLosAngeles is all about.  Experience level, amount of gear you have,  how many rules you know....none of this matters here.  We welcome all and support our brothers, no matter where they stand or what they know.  
I thought this dream too idealistic for modern Los Angeles.  I just didn't think it could work in a big city.  Then I was introduced to Papa Tony and he showed me the workings of FetishMenSanDiego.  It was then, I was truly inspired and knew it could work here too.  It would be hard work and slow in the beginning but eventually we will have a group of like-minded individuals that want that feeling of brotherhood, of community. 
So join me in creating this new world.  It is time for us to be a community that has its arms wide open.  I believe that is what we have been all along, we just didn't know how to actualize it.  Now is our chance to welcome the next generation, to connect with others and pass down our knowledge.  And, perhaps, learn a few things ourselves.  Now is our time!  Welcome to the birth of FetishMenLosAngeles!